Some guys just aren’t going to get it.
Being with a badass, audacious woman like yourself, that is. Dating can be a challenge when you’re a self-assured babe with goals. But the good news is, some guys (or gals—whatever!) will get it. You just have to find the right one. Enterprising women have specific challenges that other, not-so-career-oriented women might not have. But it’s not all bad. I’m going to break it down for you.
You might be more ambitious than the people you date— and that’s OK!
You don’t need to have exactly the same goals as the person you spend your life with. What you do want to have is a comparable vision of your lifestyle together. That means having some similar hobbies or interests—some fun things that you can do together. Do you both like going to the farmer’s market and then coming home and cooking organic food together? Great! You both like to geek out and have marathon Harry Potter movie nights (with plenty of gummy bears)? Perfect! As long as you have fun and enjoy spending time together, it doesn’t matter if you’re the CEO of an upstart and your partner is happy as a bartender.
You’re busy—and you’re not going to waste your time with just anybody.
Other people might have a hard time understanding this. In a world of constant “swipe right,” the idea of valuing time is revolutionary. But you have stuff to do. Really important stuff. If something or someone isn’t amazing, why bother? And you know what’s great about that? Since you won’t be going on as many casual dates, you’ll learn to spend time by yourself and (this is the best part!) love yourself.
The people you date might not understand your big goals—or might even think you’re crazy!
A lot of people in this world just aren’t very driven. The thing is, many of them are still really great people. You might even find yourself falling for someone like that—and that’s OK. However, there is one big deal breaker. You. Need. Them. To. Believe. In. You. If they’re constantly telling you things like, “You’re never going to make it” or “That’s not going to happen,” kick them to the curb—seriously. You can’t have that kind of negative thinking in your life. Because you’re going places, baby!
Having high standards means having a smaller dating pool.
Sure, with all these standards, some guys just aren’t going to get it. And that’s OK. I’d rather have one smooth dark-chocolate truffle than a whole bag of M&Ms. Because there just isn’t anything special about a bag of M&Ms. (Don’t get me wrong, I still like M&Ms, but you get the idea.)
What I’m trying to say is that is may be a little harder for you as a badass woman to find your mate. But it’s totally worth it to look. There are some really great people out there. If you find them, yay! And if you don’t, that’s OK too. You love yourself—and that’s all that really matters.
